Alcohol addiction is a terrible grief for the family. Drinking people are the first cause of domestic violence, financial difficulties, and the formation of wrong stereotypes in young children. Constantly observing drinking relatives in the family, children can repeat their fate.
How to convince an alcoholic to stop drinking?
The big problem is that drunkards do not recognize the existence of alcohol addiction until the very end. For them, alcohol becomes the only joy in life. The feeling of problems, life's difficulties is dulled.
It becomes almost impossible to persuade a person to stop drinking. But the stage of pleasant leisure with a glass quickly ends, diseases appear, irreversible changes occur in the cerebral cortex.
Growing social problems
- more frequent conflicts in the family;
- there is a change of environment - proven friends turn away, and alcoholics take their places;
- in a drunken state, a person easily breaks the law;
- lost interest in life, etc.
How to get a loved one to stop drinking alcohol?
In order not to completely lose a loved one, relatives and friends have the last chance - to force a person to give up alcohol. In this case, one should not ignore any methods and neglect the means of returning a stumbled person to society. How to persuade to stop drinking? Should he be persuaded? Where to start? Perhaps you need to force treatment?
Undoubtedly, it is necessary to try to persuade, to bring to consciousness that the problem exists, to help to realize it and understand: the situation should be dealt with somehow. To reach out to his mind, to evoke memories of how good it was when alcohol did not dominate him.
After realizing the problem, you need to force the alcoholic to give up alcohol. This is an extremely difficult task, requiring incredible efforts from you and the patient. Awareness of the problem does not always prompt him to stop drinking. A person does not admit to the last that he cannot quit, he assures others that at the moment he simply does not want to quit. But as soon as he wants to, vodka will be forgotten without effort. He sincerely believes that today he lacks real motivation, especially since tomorrow "Vasya’s neighbor has a birthday", then Fisherman’s Day, but after the New Year, right from 8 in the morning, he will definitely quit. This can go on indefinitely. At the same time, if you try to insist, you can cause strong aggression on yourself.
What can make a drinker stop drinking?
There are a few general rules to start with persuading an alcoholic:
- talk about the problem only when he is sober;
- you are an important person for the patient;
- prepare hard evidence that he actually became an alcoholic;
- justify your desire to help him recover from drunkenness;
- prove that there are reliable methods of treatment, cite mutual friends who have got rid of addiction as an example;
- promise to support him morally to the end.
Often it is our own fault that drinking becomes a disaster. We ourselves try to ignore the problem until the very end. We are losing the moment when addiction began to dominate. Remember, when your loved one began to lose a sense of proportion more often when drinking alcohol, the next day we hear:
- "I always rest like this";
- "I have no problems, everything is in order";
- "I have everything under control";
- "it was meant to be" and so on.
Whatever exculpatory arguments are named, promises "this is the last time", know that you already have a serious problem! This means that your husband, son, boyfriend has become dependent on alcohol, now it is difficult to convince a man to stop drinking. But leaving it as it is will not work, it will begin to degrade before your eyes:
- will not quit drinking, but, on the contrary, will do it more and more often;
- will become more aggressive over time;
- will lose control more often;
- gradually destroy their emotional and mental state.
Even in a sober state, the patient has the consequences of alcohol dependence: irritation, depression, isolation, tension. There is no need to indulge yourself with illusions - "maybe it will get better on its own", "everything will change over time".
How can I get my husband to stop drinking?
It's time to act, but what will make a husband stop drinking? For this, all methods are good, we must try everything possible. Before applying various methods to combat alcohol addiction, it is necessary:
- get or increase motivation - it must be strong. A person experiences an addiction that only strong motivation can overcome;
- to raise self-esteem - to remind you what you used to be fond of, how much he was valued at work before he started drinking.
An interesting fact: if a man is loved, appreciated, he is surrounded by care, it is almost impossible to meet an alcoholic in such families. A man takes his first steps towards a bottle out of dissatisfaction with his life and family relationships. It is difficult to help a lost person find himself, but it is even more difficult for him to correct himself. If a wife wants to save her husband, you need to stop making scandals, tantrums and crying, try to meet him calmly, kindly.
Ask yourself questions and answer them honestly:
- How can I change myself so that my husband stops drinking?
- What am I ready for for him to stop drinking?
Difficult? Hard? But there is no other way. Stop accusing him of all sins, choke him with duties, clamp, limit. For a period of time, remove from your consciousness the conviction that:
- he must do;
- he must be responsible;
- he is a man;
- he is obliged to "drag the family";
- he must, must, must. . .
There is already a sick person in front of you, you will help him recover, and only then remind him of his duty. In the meantime, stop constantly blaming, do not concentrate on this problem, take care of yourself. And, perhaps, after that, your words about the perniciousness of alcohol will find a response in his soul.
Understanding, patience, care - this is what should surround a person, and the result of your efforts will be a strong family and a person who has stopped drinking. Connect relatives and friends. It is possible that his father or mother will be able to convince an alcoholic to be treated. Friends who are comfortable with alcohol can also help. The word of a friend often becomes a weighty argument for making an important decision.
How can I convince my son to stop drinking?
Quitting drinking, being an alcoholic, the patient needs support. Isolate from drinking friends, this is important for a successful fight against the green snake. Support him always, even if he fails, and he breaks. Let him try again to overcome the bad habit.
Do not keep alcoholic beverages in the house, give up alcohol yourself. The explanation "I drink, but I know when to stop" is not suitable. You can make yourself stop drinking if you set a positive example yourself.
Measures to gradually limit the amount of alcohol in life do not work, there is no "cultural drinking". Complete and final refusal of alcohol is the main condition for sobriety.
What to do with alcoholics who are struggling with the "green snake"? Support them in their endeavors and attempts to break the habit. For example, when the father persuaded him to stop drinking, and the son tries to refuse a glass, vividly demonstrate positive emotions, approval. If the son stumbled again, show sadness, discontent. You must help the drunkard cope with his addiction.
Can a person stop drinking on their own?
We want to warn you: self-treatment of alcoholics is rarely effective. Sometimes, with the help of character and will, this is possible if the dependence on alcohol has not reached the physical stage. The basis for giving up addiction is the desire to save the family, get a job, status in society, another goal, the achievement of which will be a reward for the efforts made. As a help to yourself, you should start practicing proper nutrition, jogging, weekly bath procedures.
To combat alcoholism, folk and medical methods of treatment are widely used. Both options have pros and cons. They are often practiced when it is not possible to convince a drinking boyfriend, husband or son of the harmfulness of the habit.
There are pharmacological and folk preparations that cause extreme aversion to alcohol. They are harmless, do not cause addiction or rejection of the body. They contain substances that are completely incompatible with alcohol. They are added to drink or food to the drinking person.
After drinking alcohol-containing drinks, they cause an unpleasant reaction of the body: vomiting, nausea, dizziness, etc. Of the most common folk remedies use:
- decoction of thyme;
- lamb decoction;
- St. John's wort decoction.
An interesting method of hidden persuasion to stop drinking existed in ancient times - dung fungus. The fungus contains a substance that stops the conversion of ethyl alcohol to acetaldehyde. If you eat a mushroom, then drink alcohol, then a person will have symptoms of severe poisoning. Our grandmothers imperceptibly weaned their husbands from alcohol in this way. But in modern realities, it is better not to use this method, especially since medicine has stepped far ahead.
Why is the help of specialists needed?
If an alcoholic cannot stop drinking, then not only folk hidden methods, but also medication can be used. These are pharmacological formulations in the form of drops and tinctures. They are inexpensive. Drugs can be secretly used, but success is not always possible.
If the disease has long and firmly taken root, the use of drops is not enough. Treatment of alcoholism in a hospital is required with the involvement of doctors - a narcologist and a psychologist. In especially severe cases of alcoholism, it is no longer possible to do without the help of qualified doctors.
There are 3 stages of chronic alcoholism. If the first two still give hope for getting rid of the disease on their own, then at the third stage, alcoholics themselves will not stop drinking without the help of doctors.
There comes a time when the problems are growing every day, it is necessary to make a decision on compulsory treatment. Such an action is regulated by law No. 323-FZ. Determination in a narcological dispensary is carried out according to the conclusion of a psychiatrist.
It is better not to bring to such a state, and to help alcoholics until this moment. Take care of your loved one in advance and find your own method to convince the drinker to stop drinking. The specialized clinic, for its part, will do everything possible to return a healthy person to society. True professionals treat alcoholism at any stage and are ready to accompany you from the first consultation to full recovery.